A Seasonal Gift For Yourself: Self Love

Do you love who you are?

It is a paradox at this time of the year when there is so much love going around , some people feel lonely and inadequate,

Out of the loop.

Ultimately we are all going to have more chance of being loved and cared for by others when we have learned to love and care for ourselves.

There have been 3 instances over the past two weeks where I have been reminded of the importance of loving myself

1. Last week for Beach Notes I wrote a post Do you acknowledge your greatness?

I was struggling with my identity and doubting myself. I then wrote:

Looking at myself,

I sometimes realize

I don’t see in me

the gifts and talents

the way others do !

Do you see what others see in you? Or are you often surprised?

2 The second occurrence was the inspirational  movie The Validator

This is so inspirational, both about self validation and how we can impact on how others see themselves. See if you can relate to both sides of the validation story. I could relate to how I can both give and receive validation.

3. On Wednesday my friend and fellow inspirational blogger Stephanie Bell aka Spirit Coach wrote a wonderful post about self-acceptance. Say Yes to You, You  Fabulous You

The message that comes through for me from these 3 separate incidences, uncovers the importance of  loving oneself .

This can be challenging and often easier said than done.

Stephanie has a great suggestion to get the ball rolling by standing in front of the mirror and saying I love you to that beautiful reflection.

How are you feeling on the self love stakes? What works for you?

Share your gems here!

Comments

  1. says

    Hi Suzie,

    This is an excellent reminder. Once the gifts start flowing and the slights get imagined it can be very easy to fall into a pity party. Self love is such a powerful force. The mirror is a very useful tool as well as EFT. I like to pause and do a mini meditation with my hand on my heart. I feel the love. Merry Christmas.

    Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..Five Tools to Sharpen Your Authentic Edge

    • says

      Hi Tom,
      Thanks for you great suggestion of using the mirror- remember Louise Hay is a great advocate of mirror work,

      Suzie

  2. says

    I think that everyone loves themselves. But the problem is that people get so caught up in being busy and doing things for other that they forget about themselves. This is a great post. I think it is important for everyone to take time out of there day to love themselves.

    Sarahs last blog post..Lululemon Boxing Day Sale

  3. says

    It’s Christmas Eve and my husband of 20 years left yesterday morning on his sailboat, to be gone for an unspecified time, probably months. I’d have gone with him, but he didn’t ask me, in fact was clear he wants to go alone.

    I’m fighting feelings of worthlessness, abandonment, rejection. I think when he sees me he is just reminded of responsibilities, and he has become overwhelmed with responsibilities–mostly of his own making, but he doesn’t think about that.

    I could really use some validation. I have an Al-Anon meeting in 45 minutes, and I’m going to sing with a choir for late Christmas Eve mass (though I’m not Catholic, I just want to sing).

    Beyond tomorrow, when I’ll have Christmas dinner with other Al-Anon singles, there’s just a huge chasm of loneliness that I have to fill with something. I’m prone to depression and it would be really easy to just sink into it, with nobody around to nudge me, expect anything of me. Well, there are two dogs. I guess that’s a place to start.

    1st Mates last blog post..Santa Needs a Bailout Too

  4. says

    Self love is such a powerful force. The mirror is a very useful tool as well as EFT. I like to pause and do a mini meditation with my hand on my heart. I feel the love.This is a great post. I think it is important for everyone to take time out of there day to love themselves.